Quiet Confidence: A Guide for Introverts on Their Wedding Day, Inspired by Professional Performers

QUIET CONFIDENCE: A GUIDE FOR INTROVERTS ON THEIR WEDDING DAY, INSPIRED BY PROFESSIONAL PERFORMERS

Hi there, I’m Cressida, founder of Wislocki Music and I’ve been working in the wedding and events industry for over twenty years, both as a professional string player and more recently providing live musicians and DJs for weddings, events and private parties. I’m delighted to be featured on Rebecca’s blog!

Your wedding day is a celebration of your love and commitment to your partner, but for introverts, being in the spotlight can be a great source of anxiety. Drawing inspiration from our professional musicians at Wislocki Music, renowned for their ability to command attention and perform under pressure, here are tips to help introverts feel confident on their special day. 

Preparation is Key

Professional performers meticulously prepare before stepping on stage. Similarly, thorough planning for your wedding day can ease anxiety. Rehearse your vows, walk down the aisle, and practice any speeches in advance.

Visualise Success

Like performers who visualize successful performances, picture yourself confidently navigating the wedding. Your brain can’t tell whether it’s imagined or real so visualise yourself walking down the aisle feeling happy and confident. Feel all the love and good will emanating from the people around you. When it’s the real thing, your brain will go straight to this familiar scene.

Build a Supportive Inner Circle

Surround yourself with a supportive team, just as performers rely on a backstage crew. Share your feelings with close friends or family who can provide encouragement and help you navigate the day.

On the Morning

Start your day with a 10 minute meditation. There are some brilliant ones available online and on apps like Headspace and Balance. Go easy on the coffee and tea, caffeine can make you jittery. A top tip is to eat a banana – they contain tryptophan which acts like a natural beta blocker. Every performer we know does this before going on stage!

Mindful Breathing Techniques

Don’t TRY to relax – why would you be relaxed? It’s one of the most exciting moments of your life! Instead, reframe the butterflies as excited energy.

Performers often use mindfulness and breathing exercises to calm nerves. Incorporate these techniques to stay present and centred, allowing you to enjoy each moment without being overwhelmed.

Create Intimate Moments

Design your wedding to include intimate moments for just you and your partner. Whether it's a quiet dance or a private exchange of vows, these moments can serve as a respite from the larger crowd.

Choose a Comfortable Environment

Select a venue that aligns with your comfort zone. Whether it's an intimate garden or a cosy indoor space, feeling at ease in your surroundings can significantly boost confidence. Having soothing and familiar music in the background can help with this too.

Delegate Tasks

Just as performers delegate responsibilities to a team, enlist the help of a wedding planner or trusted friends to manage logistics. This allows you to focus on the joy of the day.

Focus on the Love

Ultimately, your wedding day is about the love between you and your partner. Every couple is unique and your day is a reflection of this. There’s no such thing as “The perfect wedding.”

Your wedding day is a once in a lifetime celebration, and with these tips from our performers, you’re not just stepping into the spotlight with ease, but owning the day. By being fully present, you’ll savour the memory of it forever! 

Thank you so much Cressida for your wonderful post. || https://www.wislockimusic.com